I'm actually super excited to discuss emotional bonding. Reason being is because no one ever talks about it. It's almost like it's invisible. When in reality it is one of the main reasons why most relationships fail. Also the reason why when someone disconnects from you or ignores you because fixing your emotions becomes exhausting, you feel so empty and you don't know where your next move is. Emotional bonding is when you depend on someone emotionally to make you feel a certain way. For example, I depend on my dogs to make me feel welcome and missed when I come home from a long day.
The downsides to emotionally bonding to someone you've known for a short period of time. You do not know if this person is dependable, gives them an opportunity to manipulate you, And makes you feel feelings that you didn't want to feel in the first place. It makes you vulnerable. Emotional bonding is often mistaken for love. Even if you know somebody for a long time and you're emotionally bonded to them to make you feel happy or connected and they don't provide that service for you. You become depressed because you are not emotionally bonded to yourself.
Learn to be self-sufficient alone. Yes, you read correctly.This is not a simple task, but once you accomplish it it's beyond amazing the results that you get. Doing this, you're building an emotional bond to yourself. Depending on yourself to make yourself feel happy or motivated. When you become sad, you're teaching yourself how to feel otherwise depending on only you. This way you're not calling on someone to fix your emotions. What I personally do is spend a whole day at home, go to the gym, or go to an event by myself once a week.
Please remember we do not strive for perfection we search for balance so don't beat yourself up. Everyone's lifestyle is different so people will get to this point at different times. Trying is always better than doing nothing at all.
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