We have Discussed flaws and our triggers. Today we're going to discuss insecurities and how to face them. This one is probably the most talked about, especially nowadays on social media but nobody is talking about how to face them. Whether they are small or big, all of us have dealt with our own insecurities at some point in our lives. I'm still dealing with my insecurities til this day. Unfortunately insecurities become a problem when we decide to ignore them or become triggered when someone brings up your insecurity. Naturally, instead of facing your insecurity, you become defensive and blow up. Or you pretend you're OK with it and start to make fun of yourself and talk down on yourself as a coping mechanism. So instead of reacting this way how about we discuss how to handle our insecurities and become honest with ourselves.
Like most people my top insecurity was my body weight. At one point in my life, I didn't look the way I wanted. I didn't fit my clothes the way I liked and I didn't feel very confident with myself when I looked in the mirror. Of course society standards of what was beautiful looked nothing like me, so that didn't help. As everyone knows, this insecurity can lead to a lot of health issues, risk and mental problems. Instead of leading myself down the wrong path I decided to do something about it.
Of course, I started eating better and going to the gym but I knew I had to do more. I stopped looking at society's standard of beauty and everything else they deemed worthy. I also took the time to see what worked for my body, not somebody else's. I stopped comparing myself to other women and actually looked at them as a motivator to push a little bit harder. I promise those women you're comparing yourself to were beginners as well and they decided to put in the work just like you did. Lastly I started surrounding myself with people who were working on themselves as well inside and out. The point is instead of complaining or becoming defensive I did something about it. Because I took these steps to better myself (not just the way I look), Today I can finally look in the mirror and love all of me. Of course, this did not happen overnight. It took a lot of backtracking and years of experience. I can tell you now, it was worth every moment. Women shine their brightest when they are their authentic self. It shows and it's so beautiful to watch. At the end of the day, that is my goal.
Quote: “I accept myself as I am while working towards who I will be.”
Thank you so much for reading this three-part series. I hope it helps you understand yourself just a little bit more.
Please remember we do not strive for perfection we search for balance so don't beat yourself up. Everyone's lifestyle is different so people will get to this point at different times. Trying is always better than doing nothing at all.
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