I’ve been seeing the dark, healing, and soft era on social media a lot. Personally, I don't want to call a phase in my life dark or soft. To me, it's a life lesson that has made me feel or react a certain way toward something I just experienced. I don’t want a horrible breakup to have any credit or power for a change I decided to make to better myself. That’s just my personal opinion but if that's how we are expressing our life-changing moments hopefully this blog steers you in the right direction.
This era is the most common one and the most misleading one. Some people believe that being in this life-changing moment is an excuse to be a bitch or an ass and think they can get away with it. Being rude to people or friends because you're in pain is not an excuse. Look not to excuse your feelings but you're not the first to go through any kind of rough break-up. If you stay in this phase too long you become angry, alone, and bitter. Instead of losing good people who care about you, try making the best of this phase in your life. Whatever happened to cause you to step into this “Dark Era”, take your time and think about what happened. Find a way to turn it into a lesson so that in the future when you see the signs you can go the opposite direction.
And that direction is the “Healing Era”.
This era is pretty much self explanatory because it's the most popular one on social media. I wish learning to take care of our peace of mind was a thing when I was growing up. Then again discovering how to do it on my own was a journey in itself. Starting this era is easy but finishing it is rare. It's easy to do a spa day or go out with friends so you temporarily pretend nothing is wrong. Denial normally leads to very risky habits. Instead we could accept that we have to face the truth and accept ourselves as we are. Then learn about who we are and what we actually want in a relationship or life in general. Once you get past this era it leads you to the “Soft Era”.
This era I believe is the most satisfying. I know it's hard to agree with me because it's called soft right. Sadly It's also the hardest to stay in. After taking everything you’ve learned and applying it to your new way of living life, things are brighter. You feel like a new person and you know you're better for it. That bad experience that happened so long ago is now a life lesson and you're all of a sudden glad it happened. This is called peace of mind (goals). Hopefully, we can keep from the repeating wheel or end up wearing rose-colored glasses. You can’t keep doing the same things and expect different results. Unfortunately, life likes to kick you out of the “Soft Era” but at least this time you're more prepared.
Please remember we do not strive for perfection we search for balance so don't beat yourself up. Everyone's lifestyle is different so people will get to this point at different times. Trying is always better than doing nothing at all.
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